I guess it is almost like half a year I write here. Just that business is really damn slow, perhaps Malaysia economy will get better next year.
Perhaps I should do some recap of 2009 like What I did for 2008. But then there are too many pictures I took with BSS. so it will take some time to upload it. Nonetheless I will start to write my blog more frequently. Perhaps for some opinion about love and relationship after I read the books borrow from Wendy.
Basically it is nothing much, it talks about the standard of love relationship as the title for the first chapter. The book has many short chapter for people to read and get inspiration and in depth understanding the how love and relationship can be become. But then it doesn't apply for everyone out there.
Many people might be wondering what is the definition or standard of love. I have a female friend, she has a kind a big boobs:P. Whenever there is lingerie sales and undergarment promotion she always get to have great time shopping for her "inner beauty". But then sometimes things always have pros and cons. There is one day I went out shopping with her, and the bra are all half price. The style and the pattern of that bra she likes didn't have the size she wanted LOL. and is 36D wao. Then I told her her boobs are just too big. Then she tease me back said that what people call standard size LOL!.
Thus from the conversation there is many many ways of defining standard. But if what she said is true that standard breast size must be 36D then many girls got to have low self esteem when comparing to their boobs. But I have another friends, who have bigger boobs, but then problem they have big butt and big waist too:P and she still have great confidence in her body shape, and always wear sexy clothes to show off her body. That's her standard.
Because beauty, love and relationship is all 2 sides so sometimes it just too hard to have a standard for everyone. some people use to tell me beauty lies in the eyes of beholder, but I would say, beauty is just skin deep, but ugly goes to the bone LOL!. I am not being insulting, but I shoudl say, there is a "public" or human scale for standard beauty. For example if you think that girl is pretty, then just pass her picture around for 100 persons, and do some sampling, if 90 persons out of 100 said she is pretty then you can say, through your study she is 90% pretty, but may be you can say also say she is 10% ugly LOL!. yea. and some ugly old hag, that always thinks she is so GoooOOod. will only have the husband closing one eyes to appreciate her beauty. Yea she is still pretty but may be 5% pretty. So i can say using such scale everyone is pretty but with a percentage.
But why that, we don't have standard for love and relationship? Because is 2 persons matters. So other people opinion doesn't give a shit about how both interact or the relationship as long as both of them are happy and think is standard. Means if both agree about certain rules or regulation then it become their standard. But other people might think is weird ? might think is unacceptable. but that doesn't matter for them.
For example, in japan, when you have a gf/bf usually when you come out for meals, both of them will share half half, there is the culture being taught there. Even you go to hotel to have some fun, the rental fees are shared. Yea because that's their culture, but if you are a Japanese guy and you try to pay everything, and you and your gf agrees about it then it not a problem, and other Japanese, might just think you are a moron. But why bother so much? just like in malaysia, I have friends that share expenses with his gf. when both of them went out for lunch or dinner, the guy pay the meal and the girl might just pay the petrol or toll. That's their standard and both of them agree to it and they are happy. OF course other people might just comment about them, just me me writing here. Some of the guy might just think this bf is not gentleman enough. and some thinks guys should pay everything. and the comments go out until blog spot database is not able to cater those comments LOL.
And because we are talking about standard, there is also "good" guy or "good" girl standard.? Guy with 6 C? or Girl with 36D, girl with 6C is the good standard? Yea sometimes before we meet the right one, may be we are thinking we want someone who can help us in business, someone who are intelligent, someone who are pure and innocent, may be someone who will talk about everything with you and give you 100% transparency. And someone who will just do anything on bed to satisfied you that others might think is too outrageous. But then , sometimes, then love comes you just tend to fall in, and then you might realize that the girl or guy you are with now might not be have the standard you want after all? is that a mistake, nop that's not. Love is to accept someone as is, not to change them or make them to become the standard you have always wanted.
But just bear in mind that, may be because the love is too overwhelming, and someday because of the absence of those "standard" you have wanted. You might think they guy or girl are no longer worth loving?.. but if the love sustain all this can be compromised.
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