A great teacher story

I got this forwarded email, it is a touching story, and this is life...... Be grateful we didn't have to be living in that situation

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卖一次淫，可以帮助一名失学儿童；当一回二奶，可以拯救一所希望小学… 别笑，看过你就不会笑了 Each prostitution, can help one schooless child; become a mistress once, can rescue a hopeless primary school... Don't laugh, after you read, u won't laugh. 看完这个帖子，无语了。我不知道该说什么，是社会错了，还是怎么了？ After I read this story, I speakless. I don't know what to say, is it society's fault, or else? 殷彩霞死了，死前她是一名妓女，更确切的说，她是一名老师。是当今中国当之无愧的老师。她用自己肮脏的身体，纯洁了孩子的心灵。 Xia die, she was a hooker, or she was a teacher. She is the most honourable teacher in China . She use her dirty body, wash thru children's heart. 一个妓女死了，所有的孩子哭着参加了她的追悼会，学校的国旗为她降了一半! A hooker's death, all children cried and attend her funeral, a school drop the national flag for her. 这名年仅21岁的美女教师的追悼会上，校长翻开殷彩霞的日记，当着孩子们的面老泪纵横地朗读起来，她这样写道：卖一次淫，可以帮助一名失学儿童；当一回二奶，可以拯救一所希望小学…
In the funeral of this 21yo pretty teacher, headmaster read Xia's diary sadly in front of all the students, she written : 'Each prostitution, can help one schooless child; become a mistress once, can rescue a hopeless primary school.'....殷彩霞出生在甘肃省某县的农村，在那个贫困的地方，村里的其他姑娘，无论美丑，早就到南方沿海城市去打工挣钱了，每到春节，她们都会打扮得花枝招展，大包小包的提回来。而殷彩霞高中毕业后没这么做，很多人都不理解，毕竟她的长相在村里是数一数二的。为此，她的父亲经常骂自己的女儿没出息。 Xia lived in a small village of province of Gan Shu . All ladies in this small village, no matter she is pretty or not, went to Southern part of city to earn money. Every spring time, they will come back with money and beautiful cloths. Xia didn't follow after she finished her secondary school. A lot of people don't understand what is she thinking of as she has the pretty face and body. And because of this, her father always scold her.听说当地一所民办小学缺老师，她主动跟学校要求免费代课。因为她中学成绩就很好，顺利的通过了学校的文化考核，成为一名真正的民办教师。 When she heard of the only primary school in the village needs some teachers, she volunteerly ask to become a free teacher. She is a very good student in her secondary school and because of this, she easily pass thru all the test and became the teacher of the school. 当殷彩霞第一次走进课堂的时候，孩子门哗然了，他们从未见过如此漂亮的女老师。从此，教室里常常洋溢着孩子们的欢声笑语。说是教室，其实也就一遮风挡雨的茅草棚，树杆埋成的墙，石板搭起的课桌，砖头码起的讲台，最值钱的就是那块用青砖砌起之后经打磨又刷了黑漆的黑板了，粉笔不够用，常以石灰与泥巴代替。就是在这样条件下，殷彩霞教会孩子们认识了几千个汉字，也教会了他们很多做人的道理。 The 1st time when Xia walk into the classroom, all children shock to see a pretty teacher. From then on, the classroom always fill with children's laughter. Classroom -- should call it a hut instead as the wall is made of sticks and cover with leaves as its ceiling. A big stone become their table and the most expensive should be the polished dark-green stone as their blackboard. With this condition, Xia taught thousands of Chinese words and knowledge to her students.一天夜里刮大风，茅草棚盖的学校屋顶被掀翻，黑板也被刮倒。第2天孩子们上学的时候各个不知道所措。校长去找县教育局长要钱结果无功而返。老校长晚上回来对殷彩霞说，局长说要你去才给。从来没有出过远门、也没有见过世面的殷彩霞怕把事情搞杂了，胆怯的步行10几公里去了县里。局长的办公室装修很豪华，墙上挂着很多锦旗，办公桌黑里透红，可以照见人影，上面立着一面小国旗，椅子是皮的，好象擦了鞋油一样光亮，比他的脑袋还要亮。局长见到殷彩霞，色咪咪聊了很多不着边际的话。直到天黑了，校长指着另外一扇门对她说，跟我过来拿钱。当殷彩霞走进去的时候，她只看到了一张床，也就是在那张床上，她失去了她的第一次，确切地说，是局长夺走了她的第一次。 There was wild rain destroy the classroom of the school and all students become schoolless. The headmaster visit the province's education minister for some money to repair the classroom and come back with nothing. Headmaster told Xia that the minister said only will give money if Xia ask for it. Xia never meet any minister before and afraid that she will make the things worst and decided to visit the minister. She walked more than 10km to the province ministry office and sit in a beautiful office in front of the minister. Minister's eyes looks hungry and point to a room and said to Xia. Your money is in the room, if you want, follow me. Xia saw a big bed in the room and is the bed that she lost her virgin. Minister raped her. 床单上留下了处子的血，那血，比挂在局长办公室墙上的国旗还要红。 Her virgin blood drop on the bedsheet and is more reddish than the color of the national flag in the room. 殷彩霞没有哭，因为，在眼前浮现的是孩子们没有教室上课而可怜的望着她的眼神！ Xia didn't cry, all she is thinking of is the eyes of all disappointed students that have no classroom. 她连夜步行回到家里，没有跟任何人说起她的屈辱。 She didn't tell anyone about the rape after she went home. 第二天，村民们自发来到学校，买了些材料把简陋的教室重新搭建起来了。可遇到刮风下雨的日子，依然上不了课。殷彩霞几次跟孩子们说，县里不久将会来人给他们买砖头盖一所牢固的教室，在这半年里，校长去县城找了局长十几趟，一分钱没拿到。只有他知道局长对殷彩霞做了些什么，但他却无能为力。新学期开始了，很少人交得起学费，能够坚持来校上课的孩子越来越少了，他们都跟着父母放羊去了。殷彩霞内心感到了疼痛，为这些失学儿童而疼痛。 The next day, with the money that brought back by Xia, all villagers bought some woods and repair the classroom. But whenever there was a heavy rain, the classroom still cannot be used. Xia always tell the students that province ministry department will built a good school for them. In the past half year, headmaster had visited the ministers more than 100 times and never ever get any money from them. He is the only 1 knows what did Xia did and he can do nothing about it. New semester comes, a lot of students cannot pay their fees and become schoolless and follow their parents to work. Xia sad about that.当殷彩霞知道孩子们的希望已经化为泡影的时候，她脱光了自己的衣服，对着镜子暗暗发誓将用自己的身体去实现孩子们的上学梦。在家乡她知道那些花枝招展回来过年的姐妹们都是在外做批肉生意的。她明白那是一条赚钱的捷径。她洗了个澡，告别了校长、告别的父亲，告别了那间千疮百孔的茅草棚，扎着两条麻花辫走向了繁华的大都市。临走的时候，父亲笑了，校长哭了..... When Xia feel that her hope of all students can go to school become hopeless, she drop all her cloths and swear to her naked body that she will use this body to exchange for the children to be able to go to school. She knows that all ladies in the village are working as a prostitute to earn the living and she knows this is a shortcut for her to earn money. She washed herself and say goodbye to headmaster, father, and school. She tight her hair as 2 ponytails and walk to the city. When she leave, her father smile and headmaster cry.... 繁华都市的五颜六色并没有给殷彩霞带来一丝兴奋，她眼里始终浮现的是那间低矮茅草棚搭建的教室和孩子们渴望的目光。她走进了一家发廊，躺在了肮脏的床上，经受了人生的第二次蹂躏。那天，她在日记本上写着：局长连个嫖客都不如。 殷彩霞是那帮姐妹里最节俭的女孩。她从来不化妆，也从来不穿那些性感的衣服，她总爱扎着麻花辫，但她的生意却总是最好的，她总是抢了其他妓女的饭碗，她也经常为此遭到妓女们的群殴。鼻青脸肿之后，她会走向另一家发廊，似乎只有在那粉色的灯光下她才可以看到希望。看着嫖客们一张张邪恶的嘴脸，她似乎看到了孩子们天真的笑容，但她从来就不曾因此而流泪，因为，她是个老师。 In the colorful city, Xia is not happy at all, in her mind, there are only broken classroom and sadness and disappointed eyes of students. She walked into a Hair-Saloon, lay down on a dirty bed, and accept her 2nd dirty business. In that night, in her diary, she wrote : 'Minister can't even compare to her 1st customer. At least they pay.' 她将自己的收入除去生活费之后，全部寄给了校长。校长按照殷彩霞的意思将她寄回的一笔笔嫖资全都用于改善小学的教学条件上。有人问起那笔钱的来源，校长就说那是社会捐助的善款。 She sends all her earnings except those for her to live on to headmaster. Headmaster follows her instruction to use the money on the school. People ask about the source of the money and headmaster only answer that it was from some donation of society. 世上没有不透风的墙，有一天终于从邮局传来消息说那些钱是殷老师寄来的。当地媒体得知这一消息后纷纷试图采访殷彩霞，但都被她婉言谢绝了，因为，她是个妓女。 After a while, people knows about the source of money is from the teacher and many reporters would like to interview her and she just refused and the reason is that she is just a prostituet. 有钱了，学校变了，第一个月，买了黑板，修了屋顶。第二个月，有了木制的课桌与板凳。第三个月，所有的孩子都有了课本。第四个月，所有的孩子都有了红领巾。第五个月，已经没有孩子光着脚丫上课了。 With the money, the school changed. First month, there is a new blackboard. 2nd month, a wooden table and chair. 3rd month, all children has their own books. 4th month, all children has a red tie. 5th month, no children go to school bare leg. 第六个月，殷彩霞回来了。当孩子们看到她的时候，争先恐后地叫她'殷老师……殷老师回来了……殷老师好漂亮啊……'。看到孩子们激动的笑脸，殷彩霞哭了，这半年里，多少的委屈和泪水，在她眼里都那么的有价值。 On the 6th month, Xia come back. All students welcome her happily and say 'Teacher is so beautiful'... With all student's smiling face, Xia cries.. how many tear drops and how many sadness in the past 6 months.. she feels worthy when she see all these. 在家呆了几天，殷老师又踏上了南下的路。 After few days at home, she goes back to city. 第七个月，有了操场。 第八个月，有了篮球。第九个月，有了新铅笔。 第十个月，学校有了自己的国旗，孩子们每天都能够在操场上看到国旗冉冉升起 在第十一个月，一个房地产商坚持不用套，结果让殷老师意外怀孕了，打完胎后，殷老师成了房地产商的二奶。可那位包养她半年的房产商因为因近段时间深圳房价陡降而抛弃了她，一分钱没付。 7th month, built a ball park, 8th month, basketball, 9th month, all students has their new pencils. 10th month, the school has their own national flag, students raise the national flags daily. 11th month, a land-developer refuse to use condom and Xia pregnant. After abortion, she become the developer's mistress. After a few months, the developers dump her because he faced problem on land-value drop in ShengXhen, he didn't pay her 1 cent. 殷彩霞终于疲倦了，她想回家，她想回到孩子们的身边，可她最大的梦想是为孩子们盖上一间砖砌的教室，再为孩子们买上两台电脑，因为这个梦想还没实现，所以她只能回头去苦苦哀求那位房产商。房产商说没钱，但可以为她介绍一笔大生意，一老外，愿意出三千美元买她一夜。想到几年前的那阵大风，殷彩霞拖着疲惫的身躯爬上了老外的床。她发誓，过了那个晚上她就回到她久别的家乡，回到她久别的课堂。 Xia feel tired, she think of go home and go back to the school, but she has yet to fulfill student's dream which are building a concrete classroom and 2 PCs for the students. Because of these, she went back to beg the developer and the developer just refuse to pay anything but only introduce a foreigner to her. Said the foreigner will pay her 3000rmb for 1 night. Think of the wild rain happen few days ago, she tiredly goes to the foreigner's hotel. She sweared that she will go back to her home and school after this. 可就在那个晚上，殷老师被三个外国人强奸致死。死前她才刚过完自己21岁的生日。 She killed by the 3 foreigner because of raping. She just turned 21yo. 殷老师死了，她没能完成她最后的夙愿，那就是给孩子们盖上一间砖砌的教室，再为孩子们买上两台电脑 Xia died without fulfill her final wish which to build a concrete classroom and 2 PCs. …… 一个妓女死了，悄无声息。深圳的天空还是那么蓝，官员们在豪华宴席上高谈阔论，道路上行驶的高级轿车散发着耀眼的光芒。兴奋的人们滔滔不绝地谈论着股票、房价和车市，还有电影、音乐和爱情。路边亲亲我我恋爱的小青年们为了一点小事要死要活。 ............ A hooker dies, silently, the sky of ShengZhen is still as blue as before, ministers still happily sitting in their office, many expensive cars still running on street, people happily discussing share market, house market value, car value, and movies, music and love story. Youngster try to suicide because of small matters happen between themselves. 可在此时，甘肃那个人们已经忘记了的小山村，正在举行只有学生、老师和数百位沉痛的村民的追悼会。 At this time, students, teachers and few hundreds of villagers attending the funeral in this small village 'GanShu' 追悼会上，人们看到殷彩霞的一张黑白照片，照片里，她扎着两个麻花辫，笑得如此单纯。校长翻开殷彩霞的日记，当着孩子们的面老泪纵横地朗读起来，她这样写道：卖一次淫，可以帮助一名失学儿童；当一回二奶，可以拯救一所希望小学… 校的国旗降了一半。 In the funeral, people see a black and white photo of Xia. In the photo, she has 2 pony tails and happily smile. Headmaster open the diary of Xia and read in front of all students, she wrote : ' Each prostitution, can help one schooless child; become a mistress once, can rescue a hopeless primary school...'
The national flag drop to its half... May be, this is the ONLY national flag drop half because of a GREAT hooker in China 's history. 或许，这是中国历史上，第一个为一个伟大的妓女而降的国旗。 多好感言：写这篇文章，我整整哭了两个小时。从今以后，我再也不会歧视任何妓女，因为她们当中有一个殷彩霞。真诚希望大家多转载此文，贴满各个论坛和空间．让我们的父母官们看看，当他们在台上高谈阔论的时候，当他们在酒桌前恍酬交错的时候，当他们以权谋私的时候，当他们在台上学习三个代表的时候，多想想那个不是共产党员的殷彩霞和万千处于水深火热的穷苦百姓。彩霞在那个世界在用哀求的眼神望着我们。 殷彩霞虽然身为妓女，但她比谁都活得高尚，比谁都活得有尊严。在人心冷漠、肉欲横流之下，她给予孩子们的爱难道不是我们社会最可贵的'大爱'吗？ After I read this, I cried for 2 hours. From now on, I won't discriminate any hooker, because among them there is a Xia. Hope you will forward this mail to all forum, friends, webspaces, to let all our governments to understand when they are saying and empty-promissing, when they are drinking in the pub, when they are doing dirty politics, Someone using her own power to change the world. Xia is using her sadly eye to look at all of us. Although she is just a hooker, she is more clean and saint than any of us. In this cold and dirty society, what she gave to the students are human's 'Great Love'.
殷彩霞带着未完成的遗憾离开了这个世界，作为生者，我们理当完成彩霞的遗志，在这个寒冷的冬天，多给千百万穷苦的人们、多给社会奉献我们的爱心和责任。奉献给大家这篇感人的故事，愿我们每个人都能够开心的生活，为社会多奉献点爱心。 希望大家把这帖子多转转 灵魂的震撼！
Xia leaves the world with wishes, can't we continue her jobs of bringing more hope to the poors? If we can, why dun we share our love, our capable to these children in the third world or support those who try to be Xia in our country? Share our love to PRC, support them more.. we can be saint ourselves.
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China is the BEST

Today my brother passed me some of the youtube video, i guess may be he is too free and surf around youtube to find some entertainment.

This chinese michael jackson spoof is marvelous, and notice the lyric if you know chinese. you will laugh your ass off

This one spoof smooth criminal and talking how great is Sadam Hussein

This one is BEAT IT, and talk about some guy buying some XO using fake note.

 

Quote of Day

Life is difficult,



Full of trails,


Sorrow,



Pain,



but if you fall down,
just stand up straight,
be confident and SAY...

"TIU NIA SING" WHO PUSH ME AR!!!
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LOL!!!

Dark Road to Bright Path

Today, as promised, I travel to mentakab for official and unofficial business hahaha. The most important thing is not about the business. But is the winding road travelling from gombak to mentakab. And of course some kampung road. It really brought back many of olden days memories.

I can't remember the exact day that I travel to mentakab to meet Aunty K and brother LL. But tracking back to my project proposal, I created the document roughly at July 2005, And meeting them at august 2005. I guess it was a good experience that bunch of us traveling from KL to mentakab. I still remember I have to wake up about 5am and travel to klang and fetch one of my partner then from there Using Kesas flying car all the way to mentakab. The first time we were travelling on the winding road is really exciting and no one dares to drive fast, may be maximum at 90km/h. After going there to support many times, the driving skills go through some refinement and then gradually I can achive top speed like 150km/h on the speed trap meter.

So first day is nothing much, meet up, meeting, talk some crap, and the only question I remember was "brother" Lee asking us, what if after 1 or 2 years the company chap lap, how are we going to support her? I guess my question is "If you continue to pay us the "expensive" maintenance per year we should not run out of business". and now I remember why my business didn't do well hahaahhaha. What happened in the middle and implementation of the project and so on really not important.

So after 1 or 2 years, the partners in my company having some argument and quarrel, due to business problem, profit sharing and so on. I guess no one wants it that way, just we are too young and not mature enough to handle certain problems, we never have good foresight for certain issues, we never have black and white too. Thus at the end we got to strike offfff the business. Not chap lap like "brother" Lee said lar. But more or less same situation but different status.

As today I was travelling back from mentakab after some verocious Dinner at old town kopitiam (but now at 12.35am I am feeling hungry again), is about 8.00pm and the sky started to rain. It is the first time I drive with fear and exciting, because is really hard to see the road with such lighting and the rain is heavy. You know kampung road, there are no lampost and even it is the light is most probably not powerful enough to light up the road as the rain getting heavier. Because I have to drive REALLY Slow like 60 or 70 which normally I don't, I started to think back about Jess, Rachel, another brother alex Lee, who might be also in "trouble" situation.

To "Brother" Jess,
As you told me "isn't it good if human can be like laptop get reformated and restart everything? so i can forget all the past?"

I know you are in stress mood, and may be you can't find the solution or etc. As today I travel down the dark kampung road, I feel the same fear as you, even these few years, I have been going ups and down, getting big payroll projects, getting out of business, because of business we lost friend (which i think is regretable), getting sued, getting into dilemma, having dream like taking chair and whacking your boss, and so on. Again I would say, all this pain, struggle, is part of the melodies of life. It serves as refinement for me. Because of my partners, i get to know "brother"Lee, because of another business failure I get to know brother alex lee, and because of drinking kaki like alex lee I get to know "brother" Jess.

And the rain is still heavy, some how I know is raining season, I wanted to stop my car and wait for it to stop, but then as mariah carey always sings, I can make it through the rain. So I have faith , I know I will reach the lamp posted high way and I will reach the light. It is relieved when I reach the highway tolls there is light everywhere and things are clear, but then soon when you go on karak highway everything is even darker, but you have wider roads. But as usual, I can't stop, Just like What I have told you before. "The past might have defined your present, but don't let it control your future". Try not to look backward too much, step forward, even is crawling is slow, you will reach the destination, somewhere you are familiar somewhere that has light that you are comfortable to live on and move on or even speed. The winding roads, the rain, the dark cloud, will soon pass away.

May be some of the past are too pain to handle now, but I never recommend to reformat even to laptop or pc. why? because to rebuild the foundation is tedious, to reinstall, to configure, is not easy though. Especially in life, we might hate many in our past, like both "brother" lee and I have bad experience with J, but those experience has really taught us many things. Pain, fear, suffering might be destructive for our life, but yet we have the choice to turn those experience become a constructive refinement and becomes a sharing to others who needs help in future.

So don't get reformatted, our memories are precious, that's why we have many backup solution nowadays which offer up to 1TB just to keep precious memories. Bad or good memories do not matters. But how you treat those memories and reuse it, and refine it to become more powerful experience and skills points (must read previous post).

Really hope, all the "brothers" and brothers will get a good solution and get to the bright path soon. Free up your minds, plan ahead , plan for changes, plan plan plan plan...... action action action. Like kira yamato said "first you decide, then you go through". And also think about a reason to FIGHT.


HAVE FAITH, my "brothers"!.

Everyone is special

Some how after talking to my "Brother" lee lee at mentakab today, I always think skill and talent is 2 separate things. Just like she said may be I am intelligent,but i am lazy. I also think the same, but some how i think what everyone needs is the refinement, more like playing RPG game to level up and acquire skill points.

You know what always people say you are SPECIAL?
S=strength
P=perception
E=endurance
C=charisma
I=intelligence
A=Agility
L=luck

that's something innated when you are borned. but then through intense training you should be able to change some of the above attribute. That's what fallout said. And as you go through life, pain, fights, struggles, falls, and so on, you gradually gain experience. so you level up, just like what we have in real life we call it REFINEMENT. thus you get skill point to add to different skill set like, computer, marketing, sales, PR, talk cock skill, barter and so on. To quantify things, I would say, the skill point would be largely affected by intelligence, why? because smart people learn things faster and master things faster, of course other attribute like luck and charisma and may be agility also play important roles in certain activities.

Just like my previous post, if you read about Mr. Ng, may be he has gone through many refinement and then allocated many skill point in computer skills and planning skill? who knows? but then the allocation is not done manually, is more like what kind of skill you use more gradually it get sharpen and refined.

So if you today you are going through pain, shit load of stuff, or suffering. don't fear the light is very near you. Just like samurai swords, they are the sharpest swords, but yet the swords gone through many many process, and refinement to achieve it. Same goes to human life, if you think now you are in the shittest situation, the last thing you have to do is breakthrough, once is done you will be in your greatest shape. Just like the samurai sword.

Yesterday Lesson - About planning

Yesterday when I was supporting Denso project at Bangi, suddenly IT manager Mr. Ng came in to the server room and have a short chat with me. Then we talk about VMWare, about his success case and his future plan and blah blah blah. The only thing that really enlighten me is about his planning strategy.

We all know that planning is important, just like Mr. Ng and others said if you fail to plan then you plan to fail. Is really true, even though we all know this truth , but not many of us really plan out our stuff. As time goes by, our planning are usually all inside the mind, or so call ad hoc planning which equals to no planning at all. Some people realize this truth and also following the planning method, they really do planning. But they are planning for what they are going to do. Just like we have yearly plan, quarterly plan and so on. The plan is to plan what we are going to do. But one thing Mr. Ng has really taught me is you have to plan for the change in the next 5 years.

Talking about IT perspective and technological advancement, such as CPU processor, software, and OS, they have trend, and also changes every 3 or 5 years. Due to this nature,Mr. Ng has to plan ahead what to change and how to change. As he mentions, Denso even though is a MNC, but then their budget is not big though. So he plans ahead very well. As just now discussion with my "brothers" lee lee, she told me people who really has great wisdom can plan ahead and plan for changes, and plan ahead like 3 or 5 years and forecast the change.

But I think is not that true, consider planning for changes is like advance planning, thus we have to master the basic planning first. Since many of us never really conduct basic planning, we cannot achieve the level of advance planning. As Mr. NG current age and his expertise in IT for 20 years experience, he has been practicing planning may be for at least 20 years, thus in order to achieve advance planning level is easy for him. Plan for changes is more like planning for dynamic, fluctuating demand and supplies in production. So all of us should start with some basic planning today, so that one day we can achieve the advance planning level like Mr. Ng and contribute to the orgnization and also society.

Xenosaga - ending song

IS being awhile, that I last listen to my old mp3 stuff. So happen i just dig out some of it from my old harddisk. One of it i find it quite meaningful on its lyric.
The xenosaga 1: ending theme song.
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I've been watching you awhile
Since you walked into my life
Monday morning, when first I heard you speak to me
I was too shy to let you know
Much too scared to let my feelings show
But you shielded me, and that was the beginning

Now at last we can talk in another way
And though I try, "I love you" is just so hard to say
If only I could be strong, and say the words I feel

My beating heart begins to race
When I turn to see your face
I remember that sweet dream which you told to me
I wanted just to be with you
So we could make the dream come true
And you smiled at me, and that was the beginning

Now at last we can talk in another way
And though I try, "I love you" is just so hard to say
If only I could be strong, and say the words I feel

Tell me what you're thinking of
Tell me if you love me now
I had so much I longed to ask you
But now the chance is gone

While your picture fades each day
In my heart the memory stays
Glowing bright, you're always smiling
And I will hold it close

I am getting married soon??!!

Life remains busy as routine and common stuff still happens. Still supporting projects, running around for new sales and also closing some sales. Overall just busy. Last week, just so happen,went over to my mom shop to get her to talk about my next year fate and luck. PErhaps, being single for long time and also many of my friends also getting these few years started to think that I am getting older and older.

As I know I am not a guy that will choose to marry this soon, but then God said I will marry VERY SOON, I write it here so that I can remember what God told me. Earliest I will get married is next year or latest the year after that. Hmmm not sure how true it is, is really exciting as I have no gf now but I will be getting married soon??? some kind of sexual trap or may be super double barrel shot gun wedding? I really can't imagine I will be getting married soon, but as elaine said, who knows when fate comes. God also said the same thing HE said, appreciate the FATE that you have. in chinese is called 惜缘. And also alot of things when they want to come or go is hard to prevent or even predict. So just go along with the flow of life and boat reaches bridge head auto straight. 船到桥头直然直。another famous proverb or whatever. Hmmm God said the girl (my wife) already appeared, but I might not know her, but she knwos me, possible explanation is like may be in some banquet or some seminar, she got my name card or she knows my through friends or colleagues. But may be due to my antisocial style, I don't know her. Hmmm I am still wondering who is she.

And elaine said, usually people who stay single for awhile usually will have a pace relationship and get married. May be kind a desperate LOL. But what to do still young lar, young is priceless, or in chinese young is the capital. 年轻是本钱. Another than that, nowadays me and elaine most of the conversation is about Food and also asking me getting gf yet or not:P LOL

Hmmm any easy sign for the girl for me to spot? like may be tattooo my name on their body LOL or something easier lar. If not hard to search for my another half. Damn I am really cinapek and superstitious. But as mom said, next year definitely either me or my brother is getting married. Who knows.... God knowss larrr

About Love

This is a very old article that my friend use to forward around and around, but today seen it again, I guess is meaningful for her. IS chinese again !

遇到你最爱的人，然后体会到爱的感觉；
因为了解被爱的感觉，所以才能发现最爱你的人；
当你经历过爱人与被爱，学会了爱，才会知道什么是你需要的，也才会找到最适合你，能够相处一辈子的人

你最爱的，往往没有选择你
最爱你的，往往不是你最爱的；
而最长久的，偏偏不是你最爱也不是最爱你的，
只是在最适合的时候出现的那个人。

没有人是故意要变新的，他爱你的时候是真的爱你，
可是他不爱你的时候也是真的不爱你的；
同样的，他不爱你的时候也没有办法假装爱你。
当一个人不爱你要离开你，
你要问自己还爱不爱她，

如果你也不爱她了，千万别为了可怜的自尊而不肯离开；
如果你还爱她，你应该会希望他过的幸福快乐，
希望他跟真正爱的人在一起，决不会阻止，
你要是组织它得到真正的幸福，就表示你已经不爱她了，
而如果你不爱他，你又有什么资格指责他变心呢？

爱不是占有，
你喜欢月亮，不可能把月亮拿下来放在面盆里，
但月亮的光芒仍可照进你的房间。
换句话说，你爱的一个人，也可以用另一种方法拥有，
让爱人成为生命里的永远回忆，
如果你这真爱一个人，就要爱他原来的样子，爱他的好，也爱他的坏；
爱他的优点，也爱他的缺点，
决不能因为爱他，就希望它变成自己所希望的样子，
万一变不成就不爱他了。
真正爱一个人是无法说出原因的，
你只知道无论何时何地，心情好坏，你都希望这个人陪着你；
真正的感情是两人能在最艰苦中相守，也就是毫无丝毫要求。
毕竟，感情必然付出，而不是只想获得；
分开考试一种必然的考验，
如果你们感情不够稳固，只好认输，
真爱是不会变怨恨的。

When you meet someony ou love the most, there afre you would know the feeling of loving someone;
Because you know how it feels to loved by someone, that's why you can discover the one who loves you most.
When after you have gone through the time you love and be loved, you learn the true meaning of love, and then only you know what you requires in your love, and will find the most suitable partner, who can live with you throughout your life.

the one you love the most, most of the time didn't choose you;
the one who loves you most, most of the time is not the one you love the most;
and the most long lasting one, is not the one you love the most, and not love you most,
but is just that he/she appears at the most suitable time.


Nobody wants to change their heart delibrately, when he/she loves you, he/she really loves you from their heart, but when he doesn't love you, is the truth, when he loves you that time, there is no ways to pretend that he doesn't love you.

when a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you have to ask yourself whether you love him or not. If you don't love him anymore, don't because of sympathy and unwilling to let him go; if you still do love him, you should wish him to lead better and hppier life, hope that he get someone that loves each other , without stopping him. if you are trying to top him from getting the true love, it means you no longer loves him. if you no longer loves him, then you are not qualified to accuse him of losing his heart on you.

Love is not about possesion,
You may love the moon alot, but you cannot grab the moon and put inside your house,
but the moonlight still can shine into your room.
Just for example, if you love a person, you can use another type of possesion method, which allow the person you love become an eternal memories in your life,
if you really love a person, you should love her original self - love all her good sides and love all her bad sides, love her strengths and love her weakness, NEVER because of you are loving her, you hope to change her to become what you have expected, when the changing process is not successful then the love may be a failure too.

To truly love somone, there is no reason behind it,
You know that, no matter what time, what place, good or bad mood, you will wish her to accompany you;
True relationship is about two persons endure the toughest moment together and make no request about each other. after all, relationship and love needs sacrifice, not about the result; Break up is an absolute test, if your love is not stable, then surrender is the only option.
TRUE love will not change into vengeance.

Quote of the day

酸让你懂得珍惜；

甜让你知道人间暖味；

苦让你变得更坚强；

辣让你从错误里学习；

寄你一封便宜但色香味齐全的信息，

提醒你别忘了要开心、快乐…

Another sms quote I received quite sometimes ago. 

-------Direct Translation-------

sour let you know about appreciation mistakes

sweet know about the kindness and courtesy in this world

bitter makes you tougher

hot makes you learns from 

send you a cheap but tastefull sms

remind you that don't forget to make yourself happy

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Nothing too special, just i remember i alwasy send out to encourage others when they are down, especially evy...